Don’t Let The Fear Hold You Back: Five Ways To Be Fearless & Achieve What You Want


“The only difference between people who achieve greatness and those who do not, is that the former ditched their fear.” Fear is an emotion that we all experience; it’s as normal as love and compassion, but often it can stop us from pursuing our dreams or putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations – even if the results are worth it. So many of us let fear hold us back, even if it’s an illogical fear, but it’s time to break the cycle and start living our best lives – for both body and mind. Whether you’re fearful of a work opportunity, to take a holiday alone, to quit your job and set up a creative business, to start a family, to climb a mountain or bungee off a hillside, here are five easy ways to be less fearful and start ticking those things off your mental to-do list.


Sometimes we need to be prepared to look silly, or at the very least just being less concerned with the opinions of others. It’s guaranteed that what you think is a major cringe moment will barely even be noticed by those around you – and more often than not you’ll never even see those people again. Something major changed for me when I realised I only cared about what those close to me thought about everything from my career choice and appearance, to where I chose to holiday and how much I spend on my hair; being concerned by what everyone else thinks really can prevent you from being happy and taking those steps forward into the unknown.


Instead of being fearful of a big work presentation, a new challenge or a future without a loved one, switch it on its head and turn it into an opportunity. Be grateful for the new experiences or challenges, and the positive impact they can have on your life. If you’re worried about messing up at work after a promotion, see it as an opportunity to show your strengths; if you’re concerned about taking a road trip alone, see it as the perfect way to learn how great you are at dealing with planning and navigation; if you’re anxious about leaving behind a new relationship, twist the feeling around and find your inner strength and new possibilities.


Why are you scared in the first place? If it’s not a fear that makes sense when you look at it objectively, then there’s an opportunity to soothe your worries and reassure your mind that everything will be ok. I love watching The Speakman’s on This Morning as they tackle the most common fears by simple logic, encouraging people to understand why they’re fearful and actually how ridiculous it is when they break it down. Look at your fears from the outside in and give yourself a little pep talk.


They say a problem shared is a problem halved, and that couldn’t be more spot on.  Sometimes all it takes is a chat over coffee with a friend, colleague or loved one to make you realise that you’re stronger than you think – and you’re capable of reaching great heights if you put your mind to it. Sometimes having an independent perspective on your anxieties or concerns can help to reduce them, giving you real direction and helping you to put into practice things to help you push your boundaries.


Is there someone in your life you admire or wish to be more like? Is there a celebrity that inspires you to push boundaries or try new things? I’m a big fan of autobiographies and self help books that break down how someone has achieved their success, and more often than not it’s via hard graft and self belief – nothing more, nothing less. We can all achieve whatever we set out to if we work hard and have a vision, and you’re no different; often it’s the fear that stops us, or our own self doubt, but looking at other people as a benchmark will show you that anything is possible. 

In the ethos of being fearless, this year intimate health brand Vagisil is encouraging us to do just that. They want us to be ‘Fearless About Vaginal Health‘, break down taboos and have more conversations around their intimate health and its impact on everyday life; they want to inspire confidence and empower women to be forthcoming while understanding and taking control of their intimate health – something I’m 100% behind.

Research conducted by Vagisil showed that nearly half of women (48%) state they don’t have the time to look after themselves properly, while over a third (36%) spend more time concerned with their job than their health. (Are you nodding away already?) Vagisil found that 58% of women have experienced vaginal changes (such as dryness, intimate itch and painful sex,) but only a handful are talking about these issues or sharing their experiences with others. Unsurprisingly, (45%) said if they have a problem with their intimate health they tend to avoid dealing with it; over a third of women (38%) will seek treatment for a headache within a day of suffering, however only around 10% would do the same for their lady bits – proving there’s still much work to be done to break down the stigma and taboo surrounding intimate health. 

In the UK especially we’re generally a bit rubbish at understanding, discussing and looking after our intimate health; it’s one of those things that’s still attached to so much taboo and embarrassment, even though we all have the same things going on downstairs. Whether it’s itching, dryness or just feeling a bit out of sorts, there’s always something to help: Vagisil offer a range of intimate wipes, washes and a cream to keep your lady bits feeling fabulous and mimising the irritations of every day life – so you can carry on being your confident, fearless self.

Vagisil Medicated Crème (£4.35) provides fast relief from intimate itch, burning and irritation caused by perspiration, clothing, detergents or your period. Vagisil Itch Relief Intimate Wipes (£4.50) provide fast and comforting relief from an itch, while also creating a protective barrier to help prevent further itch and irritation. Specifically designed for the unique needs of intimate skin, the wipes contains a natural antibacterial tea tree oil and are enriched with a skin-soothing botanical blend of oatmeal, calendula, and chamomile. Subtle enough to pop in your bag, it’s always good to have a portfolio of tools to look after your body from top to (camel) toe. 

It’s definitely time we were all a bit more fearless – and not just around our careers, love lives and travel plans either, but our vaginal health too. It’s important to take the time to understand and care for our bodies – as well as discussing issues with close friends and seeking help as and when we need it. May this be the little nudge you need, and may we all be a little more fearless in general.

Find out more about Vagisil and their range of products via their website; the products are available in Boots, Superdrug and pharmacies nationwide, priced from £4.35. 

This is a sponsored post in partnership with Vagisil; all opinions are my own.


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  1. Danielle Alexa
    April 7, 2018 / 4:02 pm

    This is such a lovely post, I think it is so important to not let fear hold you back!Danielle xx

    • Hayley Hall
      April 8, 2018 / 4:47 pm

      Thank you! And yes it really is – we can get so bogged down and it stops us from achieving.

  2. Charlotte Hobbs
    April 9, 2018 / 2:45 pm

    I am so behind talking about your vaginal health! We feel like we can't yet half the population have one and as they say a problem shared… perhaps I'm just an oversharer, but I have no issue blurting it all out because chances are, we've all been through a similar experience. Great post!!

    • Hayley Hall
      April 9, 2018 / 4:25 pm

      It's so true! More often than not we're all going through the same things, but we're too embarrassed to share or discuss – I'm always up for over sharing 😉

  3. Kate
    April 9, 2018 / 3:22 pm

    Gratitude is such a big one for me – it's something I constantly have to remind myself of as unfortunately it's in my nature to look quite negatively at things. Makes such a difference when I remember to do it! xKate Louise Blogs

    • Hayley Hall
      April 9, 2018 / 4:26 pm

      I'm undoubtedly a pessimist, but it does help to look positively and flip things around when you're having a down day. Works a treat if you're feeling blue!

  4. Rosa Fairfield
    April 13, 2018 / 4:25 pm

    I feel like I’m always working on trying to care less about what people think of me. It’s definitely something I want to master.

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