Time has flown over the last seven months; looking at the photos hung up around our home I know I couldn’t have hoped for a better day shared with our loved ones. Josh and I have now been a married couple for as long as we were engaged, and to be honest I’m not sure where the last months have flown. So much of 2017 was spent planning, organising and then processing, that before we knew it the Christmas tree was up and we were ready to say goodbye to the year that we became man and wife. Although I thoroughly enjoyed the experience of being engaged and planning a wedding, I wasn’t sure what to really expect of the day itself; you spend such a long time organising the details and itinerary, but few of us know really what to expect of our wedding day – past the superficial elements we have control over. If you’re a bride-to-be, or have a loved one in the process of planning a wedding, here are some of the things I wished someone would have told me and what to really expect of the day you say ‘I do.’
THERE’S NEVER ENOUGH TIME TO GET READY
No matter how much you plan the time available before you have to leave for the venue, you’ll always be in a bit of a rush towards the end. I had three bridesmaids, two flower girls and two mums with me on the morning, all whom needed hair and makeup; although there were two hairdressers and two makeup artists to see to us all, before I knew it I was in the chair being rushed from one to the other because there wasn’t much time before we needed to be on our way. We started at 10am and I left the hotel at 1.15pm for a 2pm ceremony, but the last thirty minutes were all a blur of trying to get into my dress and leave on time so I didn’t get in trouble with the registrar. (Unlike in the movies, unless you’re having a really late service you absolutely need to be there at the time specified – they won’t hang about for you, as most need to be on their way to their next ceremony a matter of minutes after yours is over.) I almost forgot my veil and we literally grabbed our bouquets on the way out of the room, even though to start with we were super chilled and thought we had all the time in the world. It will fly by, so make sure you start as early as possible – even if it seems like a ridiculous amount of prepping time.
YOU’LL GET SURPRISINGLY EMOTIONAL
I’m not really an emotional person and I’m definitely not one to cry, but I swear I spent most of my wedding day either in tears or trying to hold them back. Pretty much everything set me off: seeing my husband-to-be leaving from my hotel window, having a few moments to myself in the car on the way there, speaking to the registrar, waiting outside the ceremony room, and don’t even get me started on walking down the aisle. I don’t have any nice pictures of me walking in with my mum, because I was trying so hard not to blubber! Pretty much everything set me off, because every element of the day had meaning; I don’t know whether it’s the build-up, the realisation that this is the day you’ve been waiting for since you were a little girl, or just the sheer overwhelm of having everyone you love together in one place, but it’s surprisingly emotional from beginning to end. Make sure you’re wearing waterproof mascara, have a compact for touch-ups and don’t be afraid of your ugly cry face – you’re among friends!
THE VOWS ARE THE EASY PART
of the strangest things about the wedding process for me was actually
sitting down to choose our vows. You’re presented with a number of
options from which to choose the most relevant and personal to you, as
well as a number of readings if you wish to use them; we opted for the
simplest and most basic vows because we felt like a pair of wallies even
attempting most of them, but we both worried in advance about getting
them right. I needn’t have, because you don’t even need to learn
them – you literally repeat what the registrar tells you and follow
their instructions as to what comes next. I was a bit anxious about
meeting the registrar before or turning up and there being nobody to
marry us, but if you’re getting married in an approved venue they take
care of everything so you can literally arrive and get married. To be honest I can’t even remember what was said or much about
this part of the day, as I was so anxious ahead of walking in, but
afterwards you’re able to breathe a sigh of relief and start married
life as you mean to go on.
YOU’LL BE WHISKED AWAY AT EVERY CHANCE
a bit of a control freak I like to know exactly what’s happening, where
and when. I’ve always got an itinerary to hand, but on your wedding day
you have to trust that other people have got this covered. During the
course of the day you’ll be whisked away from one place to the next
either by your photographer or wedding manager (both seasoned
professionals,) so you never have to worry about what’s going on.
There’s always someone else in control so you can enjoy the day as much
as possible, but it’s worth getting the bridesmaids or groomsmen to
check everything is running smoothly and act as a go-between. (Mine were briefed before and told key timings, so they knew what to expect.) I didn’t
wear a watch on my wedding day so had absolutely no idea what time it
was, but I was always told where to be or what was coming next so I could just go with the flow.
YOU PROBABLY WON’T GET A CHANCE TO EAT
I’m most gutted about is the fact I got minimal chance to
actually eat the food we spent the best part of ten grand paying for!
With Krispy Kreme donuts instead of canapes, pizza and chips for our
main course and bacon baps in the evening, I honestly was looking
forward to eating my way through them all – but I barely got a sniff. I
managed to whip one of the last donuts when I escaped from the photocall
off to have a wee, got through about two slices of pizza before I went
off to mingle (my desert sat there for hours before it finally got
cleared away – sob) and didn’t even see the evening food. Right at the
end of the night I managed to sneak a piece of cake before we left, but
that was about it. You’re so busy talking to people and having a great
time that there’s simply little time to actually enjoy the food and
drink you’ve paid for. Gutted. I’m so glad we kept back the top tier of
our cake for ourselves and have been able to defrost slices every time a
family member comes round to visit – something I’d definitely recommend
doing yourself. Don’t worry about getting drunk either: you won’t finish a whole glass, I promise you!
THERE’S LITTLE ALONE TIME
this incredible day you’ll want to spend some time with your new
husband or wife to take it all in, but there’s little opportunity to
actually be alone – or even together. We sneaked away for ten minutes as
everyone made their way in for dinner, just to have a chat and take
some selfies, and I’m so glad we did. You’re constantly speaking to
people or being pulled away to have photos, but it’s important to take a
few minutes out alone to absorb the commitment you’ve just made. We
both wanted to spend the evening having fun with our friends and
enjoying the Busted tribute band we booked, and I’m so glad we actually
spent this hour dancing together rather than mingling. You’ll never get that time back, so although Great Aunt Mildred would love to chat for an hour it’s ok to say a quick hello and go off to find your new spouse.
BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, IT’S ALL OVER
twelve hour day may seem like an age, but before you know it
it’ll be time to say goodbye. When you’re planning the day it’s easy to
think there’s too much of a gap and try to find ways to fill it (we spent
such a long time creating a board game room and a pick n mix stand to keep people occupied!) but I guarantee people will be far too busy drinking,
chatting or generally having fun to notice the hours flying by. It’s a cliche but totally true: you’ll blink and the day will be over, so make sure you absorb every moment possible and create memories with your loved ones that can be treasured for a lifetime. People laughed at me for having a dress with pockets, but it meant I could have my phone on me to take photos and videos of little moments throughout the day; some of those are as treasured as the professional photos we love so much. Before I had a chance to take it in, my dress was in a pile in the corner of our hotel suite and we were devouring a stack of pancakes for breakfast.
Enjoy every second, because you (hopefully!) only get to do it once.
Good luck to all the brides-to-be out there. Wishing you the best day ever.
All images taken by Hannah McClune: www.hannahmcclunephotography.com
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