With google spitting out over 41.4 million search results for the term ‘wedding diet’, it’s safe to say it’s one of those things that is usually top of the agenda when that sparkly ring slips onto a finger. As a society we’re a little obsessed with our eating habits and restrictive dieting in general, but as soon as there’s a wedding on the horizon it seems to get ten times worse. Even at the National Wedding Show this past weekend there were what can only be described as ‘reduced calorie foods’ in the goodie bags, which doesn’t exactly promote body positivity during a time when women already feel quite fragile. Apparently around 90% of brides-to-be are anxious about their weight, which is understandable when they’re due to be photographed from every angle and the pictures being posted all over social media without any kind of pre-approval. (Although I have been to weddings before where all social media coverage was banned until it had been approved by the bride!) One of the main questions I keep getting asked is whether or not I’m going to starve myself for the next six months, and therefore be no fun to be around – which is not only marginally annoying, but also quite worrying. When such an occasion is about the celebration of love between two people, why is one of the top concerns how big your bum is going to look on the day? Well, I for one have got more important things to worry about (like booking a florist, finding a photographer and deciding what shoes I’m going to wear) so these are the reasons that a wedding diet just isn’t for me.
HE LOVES ME THE SIZE I AM
Josh and I met when I was basically the same size I am now; I may have filled out a little over the last three and a half years, but fundamentally I’m the same size and shape as I’ve always been – and he loves me that way. He asked me to marry him while I was a size sixteen, so I shall say my vows as a size sixteen. I honestly don’t understand the obsession to drop three dress sizes when you’re supposed to be committing to someone who loves you unconditionally.
I DON’T WANT TO BE MISERABLE & HUNGRY
There’s no two ways about it: being on a diet is bloody miserable. Food and drink play a fundamental part in my social life (brunching, lunching, cocktailing, afternoon tea-ing) so if I was to restrict myself for the next six months I’d be blooming grumpy, bored and fed up. I’d also be really quite hungry, which is not something I’m very good at. I want to thoroughly enjoy being engaged and all the celebrations that go with it, so no, I won’t be limiting my meals to cardboard crackers and ‘less than 99 calories’ packets of biscuits.
WHY CHANGE JUST FOR ONE DAY?
I can’t tell you how many conversations I’ve had with friends and colleagues over the years that have revolved around them looking back at their wedding photos and wishing they looked that good again. So many of us are conditioned into believing we *need* to lose weight to wed (choosing to for health and confidence reasons is another matter,) but more often than not it leads to people actually feeling worse a few months down the line – when they return to their normal lifestyle and the weight creeps back on. I’d rather look back at photos and think ‘I looked so happy’ than ‘I looked so skinny’ and feel rubbish about myself. Yes, I want to feel amazing, but that doesn’t necessarily mean dropping a dress size to do so.
DRESS FITTING WOULD BE A NIGHTMARE
Can you imagine the drama that would surround constantly needing to adjust and re-fit your dress, because your shape is changing? Baring in mind you have to pick out and order your dress 6-12 months in advance and have final fittings a few months before, it’s not ideal to be losing a tonne of weight during this period. (It’s also hugely costly to be having fitting after fitting.) No thank you. I’ve been fitted into my dress and my focus now is on maintenance and toning, not trying to slim down.
I’VE PAID A FORTUNE FOR THE DRESS TO DO THE WORK
Isn’t the whole point of a wedding dress to pinch you in, slim you down and perk you up where you need it most? I’ve just spent the best part of a couple grand on a dress to nip in my waist, slim down my bum and give my boobs a starring role – and that’s even before I’ve found magic underwear. I’ll let the wonder of fine dressmaking do the hard work so I can crack open another bottle of bubbly.
Now I’m not saying it’s not a good idea to invest in a slightly healthier and cleaner lifestyle in the run-up to your big day, but my personal focus is going to be on drinking lots of water to ensure my skin is glowing, keeping up with my gym visits to tone up my wobbly bits and generally feeling good about myself. That doesn’t involve stopping the cake and chocolate altogether (much to my PT’s dismay,) but about investing in a healthy lifestyle that balances feeling great with enjoying life. Because for me the most important thing is how big my smile is in my photos – not how big my bum is.
How about you? Did you go on a wedding diet in the run up to your big day? Can you see yourself dieting and exercising like mad ahead of your wedding, or are you just not that fussed?