10.5.18

The First Weeks Of Summer (And A Reminder Not To Judge People's Fashion Choices)

We've been having the most glorious sunshine in the UK these past few days, and the impact it seems to have on everyone's mood is incredible. Happy people are bouncing down the street, hanging out in parks and demolishing as much ice cream as they can get their hands on (and wearing their best summer fashion while they're doing it.) But with the warmer weather comes the challenge of looking good while keeping cool - especially if you're over a certain size. In the colder weather it's easy to cover up the bits of your body you're not so keen on and highlight the parts you are, but the need to de-layer and expose that skin to the warmer elements can be a real challenge for many. We're removed of our security blankets (in some cases literally) and have to find wardrobe staples that tick the boxes of looking fab, making us feel great and preventing us from overheating. That's a struggle in itself, let alone having to deal with the judgement of others in the process; at this time of year that becomes incessant and unpleasant.  


Over the last few years my body has massively changed; I've reached my mid thirties and things are starting to stick out, wobble and grow in places that were once taught and pert. One of my biggest insecurities is the bingo wing situation that seems to creep up on the majority of women no matter how much you try, as well as the back fat that sits proudly over the edge of some of my strappier dresses. When I put on a sundress over the bank holiday I became incredibly aware of these areas and thought about covering them up with a cardigan, but within about ten minutes it was so ruddy hot I whipped it off and lathered on some sun lotion instead. Why should I not be able to enjoy the heat of the sun on my skin as much as the next person, just because my body doesn't necessarily fit the societal 'norm'?

Social media provides an incredibly easy way to pick fault, make fun of and generally insult those that might choose differently to you; with the warmer weather the images of larger ladies in small pieces of clothing start to creep into my timelines, with corresponding insults and jokes about their appearance. It brings with it snarky comments about women needing to cover up or hide away, and it feeds into our insecurities when we just want to sit on the beach in peace. We're all out there just doing out best, trying to keep cool and enjoy the sunshine - no matter our size, shape or clothing choices - so here's a friendly reminder to not judge anyone else for what they're wearing. Whether it's a swimsuit with denim cut offs, a bingo-wing exposing sundress or a maxi that's quite tight, just remember that that person is probably experiencing insecurities and you pointing them out to the wider world achieves nothing but cruelty.

So the next time you start to subconsciously pick fault with an outfit or the way a woman is presenting herself, flip that around and think about how happy she probably is enjoying a touch of sun. I'm well aware that my skin is practically see-through and that my arms have seen better days, but as long as I'm happy who else are those bingos affecting?


So with that dealt with, let's chat about this super cute little outfit I wore over the bank holiday weekend to keep me cool and comfy. Shirt dresses are such a great summer option as they offer structure and elegance while still keeping your body feeling cool; the cotton material is perfect for sitting in a pub garden or wearing to the office, and this white number from Joanie looks effortlessly retro-chic too. The little yellow embroidered flowers add a subtle feminine detail, while the lining ensures you won't be flashing your knickers to anyone stood behind you on the escalator! Annoyingly the waistline seems to pop out when you move and really could've done with an extra button (I'll be sewing in a popper this weekend,) but the pockets more than make up for it. I'm so easily pleased.

Metallics are so hot for summer, and these gold sliders from Kurt Geiger are just the ticket. I bought them during those scorching few days a couple weeks ago as I'd yet to take out my summer wardrobe from the garage, and have been wearing them with everything from maxi dresses to jeans and tees since. They're so comfy and really help to effortlessly update an outfit - proof that sometimes the simplest of accessories are the best! Also worth mentioning is this gorge Chloe dupe handbag from Shein which cost less than twenty quid; it's incredibly sturdy, large enough to fit all my essentials, is the perfect shade of nude and doesn't feel like a 'fake' (more like it's been inspired by the iconic style.)

I felt happy wearing this outfit and had quite a few compliments on my dress, so that's all that matters to me right now. That and another cold glass of rosé being delivered to me ASAP...


Joanie Embroidered Shirt Dress | £38.00 | LINK
  Shein Pink Shoulder Bag | £20.00 | SIMILAR HERE
Kurt Geiger Gold Flat Sandals  | £39.00 (Currently £29.00) | LINK
Henry London Rose Gold Watch | £135.00 | LINK 

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Photos Taken By Kirsty: fashionforlunch.net


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11 comments

  1. You look gorgeous! Thanks for the points you mentioned.


    Candice | NatalyaAmour.com

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    1. Thanks Candice! I think it's important to say, even if it's common sense for most.

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  2. I love this look, the dress looks way more expensive than it really is. I have to admit to worrying about people seeing my arms and decolltage these days, for my neckline I can wear lots of scarves in winter to hide it but in summer everything is on show x

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    1. Thanks Kay! And try not to worry - because I promise nobody is looking, or caring, like you think they are. You're fabulous just the way you are!

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  3. this look is super stunning! I too dont like my arms and often am put off from wearing sleeveless tops and strappy dresses. As much as I love summer that is a struggle...
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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    1. I think it's a struggle for so many of us. I was really conscious of it in my wedding pictures because I didn't have sleeves, but then I remembered how awesome I felt and how much fun I had on the day and stopped caring!

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  4. I am glad you wrote about this. There is so much insecurities and issues on the way we look that we sometimes obsess about it. by the way, you look gorgeous in that dress.

    Miriam | www.theopiblog.com

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  5. You look beautiful in these photos Hayley - thank you for talking about this topic. As soon as the sun comes out I start worrying about what I'm going to wear. I have a lot of problems with sweating due to a medical condition and medication as well, which makes me really self-conscious about what I look like. But like you say, people should stop judging others who are just trying to live their lives.

    Jenny xx

    www.jaffacat.co.uk

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  6. Ugh people judging other people's bodies just aggravates me so much, everyone should just wear whatever they want to wear- that's what I think! :)

    Julia // The Sunday Mode

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  7. I think you look spectacular and this dress is ever so darling! Such a great message and a very important one, too. None of us are perfect. All of us are flawed. We all have insecurities and it seems to be that the most insecure are the ones hurling the insults. So I say wear whatever the heck makes you feel great and cool and beautiful. One of the biggest summer insults that I hear every single year that drives me absolutely bonkers is the statement that if you do not have perfectly manicured toes, then you shouldn’t wear open toed shoes. Hogwash, I say! While I do prefer to keep my toes manicured, it is a process and can be an expensive one at that. And just because someone opts to not go to the trouble that means they should suffer through summer with hot sweaty feet enclosed in socks and shoes? Ugh. People need to stop with the insane insults and mind their own style! Thanks so much for sharing this message!

    Shelbee
    www.shelbeeontheedge.com

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